ARE YOUR ETHICS PERFECTIONISM IN DISGUISE?
Are your perceptions of ethical business practices holding you back?
Could your ideas about ethics be influenced by unconscious 'good girl/ nice girl' conditioning that creates an environment where you appease others and seek an impossible standard of perfection to feel valued/ avoid criticism?
Are your perceptions of ethical business holding you back? Could these beliefs be shaped by hidden 'good girl/nice girl' conditioning, compelling you to appease and seek an impossible standard of perfection to feel valued and avoid possible criticism?
It's time for some introspection: could unconscious patriarchal conditioning be creating limitations that compel you to seek perfection over authenticity? We are having more conversations about ethical business practices in the online business space which is a good thing. Yet, among women, I've observed a recurring pattern - a blend of 'good girl/nice girl' expectations and perfectionism, that culminate in harsh judgments of self and others that restricts growth.
This unconscious need to avoid disapproval by being ‘nice’ and ‘good’ erodes authenticity and hinders growth. The 'good girl/ nice girl' stereotype is a patriarchal construct that has overtly and covertly taught girls to evolve into women who try to stay safe by playing small.
This (unconscious) mindset creates resentment, triggering a vicious cycle of envy and internal conflicts, as women often critique others who dare to break these invisible chains.
While a small fraction of micro/small business owners may engage in questionable practices, the majority do not. Often, what's labelled as 'wrong' is actually a reflection of a quality you’ve learnt to suppress due to fear and conditioning. In the words of Marianne Williamson, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. This is the patriarchy’s deepest fear too!
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie famously said, "We teach girls that they can have ambition, but not too much ... to be successful, but not too successful, or they'll threaten men." Isn't it telling that the discourse women are having about ethics seems riddled with restrictions? This my friends is by design! The patriarchy like most oppressive systems is designed to be internalised so that we unwittingly contribute to our own suppression!
I call time on this.
Enough is enough.
This constrained thinking leaves countless women entrepreneurs leaving money on the table and stifling the positive impact they can have on the world. The people who want to work with you do not seek perfection, they are seeking someone real, who can guide them through their challenges with authenticity.
Ironically, the perfectionism you believe shields you from judgement re-wounds the vulnerable parts of you, teaching you that your true self is not good enough. This self-imposed cage not only restricts you and plays into patriarchal ideology, it stunts the success you work so hard to create.
It doesn't have to be this way.
It's time to liberate yourself from toxic conditioning and be the badass business woman you are.
Your perspective on ethics can empower your growth. When you venture beyond the 'good girl/nice girl' conditioning, your ethics can underpin your work, set excellence standards, and enhance your bottom line.
Transitioning from 'good girl' conditioning to bold woman beliefs will liberate you from unconsciously using ethics for external validation. This shift creates authentic and empathetic ethics, empowering you to pursue your true calling.
It’s time for courageous transformation. I’m inviting you to work with the power of your imagination to ask powerful questions of yourself and others so you can prioritise valiant progression over unconscious patriarchal conditioning.
Together we can reimagine what it means to thrive so that you create personal ethics that work with this goal rather than against, too many highly skilled women are blocking their blessings by trying to be good. You are a change maker, the world needs your boldness!
Your socially conscious, values driven businesses can be a powerful force for good, the world we live in puts enough limits on women, don’t put them on yourself!
Let your personal ethics go beyond societal boundaries. The world doesn't just need 'good' from you; it needs your brilliance.
"Well-behaved women rarely make history" - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich
Here's what will be covered in this must attend two-part masterclass and Q&A:
Intersecting Personal Psyche & Business:
We are going to dive into perfectionism, judgement, and shame to discover their implications in business.
Gender Dynamics in Judging Success:
Uncover how patriarchal narratives tie women's financial success to unethical behaviour and how to create empowering narratives.
Ethics, Money, & The Gendered Perspective:
Unpack women's historical positioning in finance and the impact this has today so that we can contribute to creating a new history where we evolve from good girls to bold women.
Wealth, Women, and Worth:
Examining society's lens on women acquiring wealth on our own terms and challenging the misconception that bold ambition is somehow wrong.
Redefining Business Ethos:
Reimagining a business culture that values genuine ethics are prioritised over harsh judgements and support excellent practice rather than perpetuate conditioned limitations.
Given the depth of this topic the Q&A is separate.
This allows for thoughtful contemplation and reflection, ensuring you can formulate profound questions that support transformative insights. This masterclass is designed to be a catalyst for change.
Here are the details:
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The live masterclass will take place on Tuesday 12th September 2023 from 13:00 - 14:15 UK time. The replay will be sent on 13th September 2023, you will have lifetime access.
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The Q&A will take place on the following Tuesday 19th September 2023 from 13:00 - 14:30 so the Q&A is spacious.
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Questions for the Q&A to be submitted by 17:00 UK time on Friday 15th September 2023.
The investment for this two part masterclass and Q&A is £55 early bird until Friday 01/09/23. After this it will be £97.
As long as I reach my 'thriving' sales target, 10% of the sales from this masterclass and Q&A will be donated to the charity, 'EDUCAID' read more about them here [LINK]. I love teaching masterclasses, it is one of the ways I have fun whilst generating my income.
Being able to donate to causes that are close to my heart with money that has been created with fun is my joyful activism contribution to creating more equity.
Hi I'm Tamu...
I am the purveyor of joy and I want to help you begin to enjoy who you are from the inside out.
I help my clients go from people-pleasing to powerful AF.
I am on a mission to help values-driven women in business create work that serves them as well as their clients. I help them prioritise making a regenerative income so their business doesn’t feel like a poorly funded charity.
Change makers need to make change making money!
I am also a speaker and a writer, my pet topics is liberating ourselves from the tyranny of capitalism and toxic productivity.
I believe that our work can be part of our self-care.
My content has led me to doing corporate work around connection and belonging in the workplace.
I am a trained somatic coach and former social worker so my work is trauma informed, nervous system first and because of who I am it fun too!
I am a joyful lover of life who likes to work smart so I can enjoy my life.
I have a 90’s music reference for everything, I laugh at my jokes and I’ve been known to cry in the presence of a beautiful sunset.
If you’re into Human Design I’m a manifesting generator and natural leader who wants to make the world a more equitable place.
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